After looking through various online profiles, you finally stumble upon someone who you're attracted to. You make contact and start chatting online. The chemistry between the pair of you is immense and you feel like you've known each other for years. However, eventually there comes a time when you have to find out if the online connection you have is the same in real life. Even if you're a confident person, it can still be nerve-wracking to meet someone new, especially if you have exchanged emails, texts and phone calls over a period of time. You have to learn to overcome your nerves if you want to meet the man of your dreams, though.

It is probably a good idea not to build up your first meeting into such a significant event in your mind, as if you arrange a date and find out the chemistry just isn't there, you will only be disappointed. Plus, it puts far too much pressure on yourself and you want to come across as a confident man rather than as a bag of nerves! It helps if you keep the first date casual and relatively short. You don't really want the first date to involve eating a five-course meal, because you will either be chomping away or when there is an opportunity to talk you may find that, despite there being no chemistry, you are unable to make a quick getaway! Speaking of quick getaways some people believe its a good idea to have an arrangement where you agree to meet for a hour. After that hour either person can decide to stay or go. This saves making awkward excuses to leave !

You're better off choosing to meet in a cafe or bar where you can have a drink and talk, so that you can establish whether the two of you click in real life or not. Bowling is another popular activity, because at least you have something to keep you occupied even when the conversation dries up. Ultimately, you want to choose to meet in a situation where you are both able to relax and feel comfortable.

It is worth bearing comfort in mind when you're getting dressed for your date as well. Of course you want to make a good impression, but the recurring theme is keeping it casual. You can still wear smart clothes, but you don't want to appear too formal, unless you choose an activity which calls for formality. However, for a first date you want to look your best, but not go overboard if you're only going to spend a couple of hours talking and getting to know each other. If you've connected online, the date is going to be the first time you actually get to see each other in the flesh, anyway, so there will be more than enough to take in!

When it comes to the date itself you should be punctual, polite and try to make an effort to listen, as well as talk. In terms of conversation topics, it is probably wise to steer clear of controversial subjects, because you don't want to cause offense. Religion and politics spring to mind ! At the same time, it is important to be yourself, as otherwise your date could come away with a false impression of you, which will not help with the development of any future relationship. Indeed, it is best to avoid talking about sex and sexual preferences and asking questions about whether he is a top or bottom, unless that is your main primary motivation for the date.

You will probably know early on into the date whether there is anything there or whether your search is set to continue but, either way, you want to remain polite throughout. If the date has gone well, you, or he, will no doubt signal an intention to meet again, and if not you may decide to part as friends or otherwise make no such commitment. Even if the man you meet turns out not to be the one for you, it is all good practice for when you finally do meet your perfect match.

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